Episode Summary
Can boundaries actually help us build better relationships?
For many of us, boundaries can feel selfish, unloving, or even unbiblical. But what if healthy boundaries aren’t about keeping people out? What if they actually help us love others more wisely?
In this episode, Kim, Brenda, and Cindy have an honest conversation about what they’ve learned from setting boundaries in their own lives. They explore the difference between healthy boundaries and walls, why access and trust go hand in hand, how forgiveness differs from enabling unhealthy behavior, and why our own emotional and spiritual health matters in the way we love others.
Most importantly, they look to Scripture and the example of Jesus to discover how boundaries can help us love people well without losing sight of the One who teaches us how to love in the first place.
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In This Episode
- Why Christians can struggle with feeling guilty about boundaries
- The difference between healthy boundaries, walls, and avoidance
- Why access should grow alongside trust and responsibility
- How boundaries can help prevent resentment and unhealthy patterns
- The relationship between forgiveness, boundaries, and enabling
- Practical boundaries that help us show up healthier in our relationships
- How God establishes boundaries throughout Scripture
- What Jesus teaches us about rest, prayer, priorities, and loving people well
Key Take Away
God didn’t create boundaries to keep good things apart. He created them to help healthy relationships flourish. Healthy boundaries can do the same in our relationships. They aren’t about loving people less. They’re about loving people wisely, in ways that reflect the heart of God.
Reflection Question
What simple boundary do you need to set this week, for yourself or for someone else?
Before taking action, spend some time with God. Ask Him to show you where a healthy boundary might help you love Him, yourself, or someone else more wisely. And before setting a boundary, take some time to understand what healthy, biblical boundaries actually look like.
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Genesis 2–3
John 15:1–4 – “I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. Remain in me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.
Hebrews 4:12 – God’s Word is alive and powerful.
Matthew 14:23 – After he had dismissed them, he went up on a mountainside by himself to pray. Later that night, he was there alone,
Mark 1:35 – Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed.
1 Corinthians 10:31 – So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.
Matthew 12:46–50 – While Jesus was still talking to the crowd, his mother and brothers stood outside, wanting to speak to him. Someone told him, “Your mother and brothers are standing outside, wanting to speak to you.”
He replied to him, “Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?” Pointing to his disciples, he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers. For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.”
1 Corinthians 13
Matthew 19:26 – Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”
Genesis 1:9–10 – And God said, “Let the water under the sky be gathered to one place, and let dry ground appear.” And it was so. God called the dry ground “land,” and the gathered waters he called “seas.”And God saw that it was good.
Job 38
Revelation 21:4 – ‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”
Proverbs 4:23 – “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”
Ephesians 6:10–18
Luke 5:15–16 – Yet the news about him spread all the more, so that crowds of people came to hear him and to be healed of their sicknesses. But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.
Galatians 6:2–5 – Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves. Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, for each one should carry their own load.
Books
Good Boundaries and Goodbyes by Lysa TerKeurst
A practical, Scripture-based resource about loving others without losing the best of who you are, understanding appropriate relational access, and setting healthy boundaries.
Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
Mentioned in the episode as another helpful resource for learning more about healthy, biblical boundaries.
Podcasts
Proverbs 31 Ministries Podcast
- What If We’ve Misunderstood God’s Intent for Boundaries?
- We Can’t Set Good Boundaries Without Love
- The 6 Most-Asked Questions About Boundaries
Therapy & Theology – Lysa TerKeurst, Jim Cress, & Dr. Joel Muddamalle
- S1 E8 – Good Boundaries Lead to Better Relationships
- S4 E2 – What if Others Don’t Respect My Boundaries?
- S4 E3 – How To Communicate Your Boundaries
- S12 E4 – How To Set Healthy Boundaries Without Damaging Relationships
Mentioned
Carla Arges
Referenced in our conversation for her teaching on healthy boundaries and the role they can play in helping us live with greater balance, peace, and well-being.
Professional Support
Licensed Christian Counselor or Therapist
Consider seeking support from a licensed mental health professional who can help you identify healthy boundaries and navigate difficult or complicated relationships.
Focus on the Family Counseling Consultation & Referrals
Offers Christian-based counseling consultations and can help connect individuals with licensed counselors in their area.
American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC)
Provides resources for locating Christian counselors and mental health professionals.
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